In my family we tended to deal with domestic violence in one way: threatening anyone who was known to be violent with more violence. I understand cycles of violence and all that hippie shit, but my need to help you resolve your own victimhood stops when you determine the best way deal with it is to victimize others. Sorry. Stop a bully with a beatdown is generally as far as I get with that. My success rate has generally been very high on that front.
One neighbor used to have pretty nasty fights (we lived in a midwest duplex, which is attached housing side by side, not top/bottom) involve a slap or worse. That stopped when my Dad told him that if we heard any evidence of a physical altercation he would break the dude’s arm. Fights didn’t stop, but the hitting did.
So all this talk about Chris Brown? Someone do us all a favor. First one within ten feet of the guy, just go to town. I guarantee you he’s a pushover. You know why? He hits women. As assault charge is serious business and there’s going to be plenty of high minded talk about vigilante justice blah blah blah. But the worst case scenario is your attorney will argue you don’t deserve any worse than Brown got and he’ll be waving the arrest photos at a bunch of carefully selected jurors. Probably at worst and a book deal to boot. Do it. For us.